Have you heard of the miniscus line? It can be thought of as the curved (convex or concave) surface of (eg) water. It looks as though the container should be overflowing, but it won't until one more teensy drop of water is added.
I often think of the miniscus line in relation to people's tempers (mine included). They are 'fine', getting on with it, rolling with the punches, going with the flow (please feel free to add your own cliches) and then one day FIREWORKS! They lose their temper and months - if not years, if not decades - of angst gushes out in an uncontrollable rush of hurt and angry feelings.
Recently, my feelings were deeply hurt. I felt let down by a friend. Rather than try to make it ok, or stuff my feelings down, or let the 'miniscus' overflow, I thought about it for a few days, wrote down the points I wanted to make, and calmly spoke with her about it! Suuuuch personal growth for me. She listened, which was kind, and after a few weeks of silence, we had another honest conversation and are friends once more.
Reaching the end of your tether (lots of cliches today!) is uncomfortable. What do you do next? Would love to hear your thoughts.
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